I remember back at the end of high school, I told someone I wanted to be a motivational speaker. I wanted to share my story and encourage others who were struggling with depression, anxiety, and self-harm. What that person said to me was meant with the most love possible, but crushed my only dream at the time.
“You have to accomplish something before you can talk about your success.”
See in my mind, I had accomplished so much! I had graduated from high school. I had found a job, and I was succeeding within college. It was not until a few years later that I realized why that hurt so much. See for me, the small things were accomplishments. Going through a day without crying; going a week without hurting myself; getting a 100% on a class assignment. These things were huge to me, because at that point, all I saw was my pain. There was no light at the end of the tunnel so to speak.
I realize now, that I had a dream, and no matter what anyone says or does, I will always have dreams that no one can take away from me. That is what gives me passion and drives me to be the best that I can be. For me, that means starting a blog that has reached over 15 countries in the two weeks that it has run.
Years after this conversation, my life is completely different then I had envisioned. I am living 537km away from home, in a city instead of on a farm. I have four part-time jobs and I am in school full-time. To some, it just seems like growing up. To me, it seems like success because despite having some bad days, I am happy.
What does success look like for you right now?