Low self-esteem is something that I’ve struggled with for many of years. The majority of the reason behind my low self-esteem was because I was bullied through grade school and high school. There are still some times that I still struggle with it – days when it’s a bit more difficult to love myself but I still look in the mirror and tell myself that I am beauitful (believe me, it works).
So, what exactly is low self-esteem? Or even self-esteem in general? Well, self-esteem is the confidence you have in your own worth and abilities. This means that low self-esteem is when your confidence levels are low. Some people believe that depression and self-esstem are synonymous, but they in fact aren’t. Depression and low self-esteem are correlated – they are related in some way. I know for me, when my self-esteem is low, I find myself feeling a bit depressed and down.
The image you have in your mind of yourself can be difficult to change. Here are a few tips on how to help you fix that:
– Listen to your inner monologue. Often times when your self-esteem is low, your inner monologue is negative. What I like to do is challenge that thought. So when I have a negative thought, I stop and think about it. I question myself, challenge it – see if it’s actually true (even though I know it’s not.) This creates positive thinking.
– Look in the mirror and remind yourself of your worth. This is by far the most difficult one to do. I found that it was because you are standing in front of a mirror, looking at yourself, shouting down all of the demons and thoughts that cloud your mind with negativity.
– Don’t compare yourself to others. This causes you to more focused on the competition you create within your mind – wanting to be better. Rather than focusing on others, focus on yourself – do the best that YOU can do.
The most important advice I could give you is to love yourself and know you are beautiful. I can tell you hundred times, but you have to believe it for yourself. So look in the mirror and tell yourself just how awesome you are!
Alex Newton is a nursing student and mental health advocate. She grew up in a small town and plans on moving to London, England one day and open up her own health practice. She has a cat named Maya who she adopted whilst going through some difficulties. She’s a daughter, sister, and warrior who enjoys a nice cuppa tea.
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