He was a gentleman.
From the very first time I met him, he was kind, soft-spoken, polite and respectful. I remember sitting across the table from him, talking about my life, and listening to his story. He was a man of few words, but somehow left you feeling like you knew Him so very well. At the end of the night, he picked up the bill despite my requests to pay for my drink. He held the door for me as we walked out and said goodnight.
Last night I saw him after a year passed by. He hadn’t changed a bit. He was as sweet as ever, met me with a hug, took my lead when I requested water, and made sure that he was respectful to my situation. We talked about life, work, school, and old shared memories…. At the end of the visit, once again he paid for my drink (I ended up with a coffee) despite my protests, held the door for me and opened the car door for me as I got in. He drove me home, gave me a hug and said goodbye.
I walked away from the car and into the building and my emotions were racing. I won’t see him for many months, maybe even years from now. But there was something deeper than that bothering me. It was the realization that he was a gentleman, and that how he treated me was how I should be treated by any other man. The two of us are good friends, yet he treated me in the same way that he would treat his girlfriend; with dignity and respect.
In that moment I decided that I don’t want to date just any guy.
I want to date a gentleman
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One thought on “He’s A Gentleman”
Great post. My ex (newly ex) is just that gentleman and that is his very best quality. When you have a man treat you that way you’ll always want it and you (of course!) deserve it. Good luck to the both of us on finding “the one” who has all of those necessary characteristics. 😉