Hard Times are Normal

“Sometimes changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge” ~ Echart Tolle

Are you going through a hard time?  Maybe you recently lost your job, you’re dealing with a death in your family, or maybe you’re just not sure anything good in life can happen to you.  Whatever you’re dealing with, I want you to know that you’re not alone and something good can come from the hard time you’re in right now.

In our daily lives, we need to believe that when we go through hard times the result will be good.  But when were hurting, probably one of the most challenging things for us to remember is that things are going to work out for our good.

So how do you know when normal emotions become something more, something to worry about?

A good baseline to look at is if there are no ups and downs to your feelings, you’re just always down, for two to three weeks. Now when you’ve gotten hit with something big like your spouse just left you or you just got fired, immediately afterwards it will feel like a constant sadness or anxiety.

But if you really look at it you might see you had a moment where you felt a little better, didn’t think about it for that hour or even laughed with a friend. This doesn’t mean the feelings won’t come to you again, they will and that is normal.

But if as time goes by you can see you’re having less of those really bad moments and more of the moments that feel a little better, you are moving through the situation in a normal way. This also means that with time you will probably be okay.

It helps if you have close friends and family that you trust to talk to. It helps to talk to someone so you don’t feel so alone and also to figure what, if anything, you need to do to get through the situation. Often time and the love and acceptance of those around is all you need. S

ometimes you actually need to make some changes and whatever the situation is helps to clarify what those changes are.

It can be hard to reach out and ask for help. It always makes you feel vulnerable and usually means facing something  that isn’t easy to face. We all have blind spots that keep us stuck. By definition a blind spot is very hard or impossible to see on your own.

It does take courage to admit the difficulties you may be facing. And yet seeing things for what they are is a first step towards things getting better, whatever your situation.


Amanda Ogden is from Sydney Australia, and has spent the past 13 years working within the welfare industry in both administration and case management assisting people with mental health issues, mild intellectual disabilities, acquired brain injuries, drug & alcohol, homelessness gain employment.  She also loves travelling, creating jewellery, music, friends and family.



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