Everyone deals with insecurities, anyone that says otherwise is lying through their teeth. The difference isn’t between people who deal with insecurities and people who don’t, the difference is between healthy and unhealthy ways of dealing with those insecurities.
Although everyone deals with insecurities, some people deal with them in healthier ways than others. High school is the worst time for a person in terms of insecurities, because in young heads, everyone blossoms before them. Everyone is better than everyone in some way or the other. Let’s use myself as an example, I hate my legs. Hate them. It’s not because I’m paralyzed from the waist down so they don’t work, it’s because they’re flimsy and they’re skinny and… Gross. My eye is weird too, because while one eye focuses, the other just kind of does its own thing, it wanders off and people stare. My head turns from side to side inadvertently when I’m concentrating on something really hard. It’s doing it now.
See? Everyone has them, the difference is that in high school it used to bother me, giving people the power to bully me. We are our own worst critic, I promise. Nobody sees us as negatively as we see ourselves, and when we talk down to ourselves, it only fuels our insecurities. It’s a cycle, really, if you think about it. Insecurity found, people notice (you think,) you try to change it, when you’re unable to do so, you talk down to yourself, and your insecurities only grow. See? A cycle.
Finding a positive outlet is the key, practice telling yourself positive things. Make it a point to find the positive things about yourself. Beat negative with positive, be kind to yourself. The world is ugly enough, and the world will be unkind to you, so it’s even more important that you take care of yourself, because at the end of the day, nobody has your back more than you do. Surround yourself with the kind of energy that you want to attract. One more thing, if no one else has told you, you are beautiful, you are so strong, you are not alone, you can beat this, and I love you so much today.
Melanie is just an ordinary girl, living an extraordinary life. She has Spina Bifida, which caused her to be born paralyzed from the waist down, she has had twenty-three surgeries, but she has never let that stop her from achieving her dreams. Melanie was a psychology major, before being forced to drop out due to medical issues, as devastating as that was, she picked herself back up and decided to pursue her dream of being an author, she is currently working on her first small book called “Befuddled Societies guide to Spina Bifida,” which will be out in a few weeks, hopefully. Melanie also suffers from anxiety and depression, and that’s the reason she wants to help others going through the same thing – because she knows how it feels to feel all alone.
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