23 Important Lessons I’ve Learned In 23 Years

*** Defying Shadows turns Two this August! To Celebrate, we are going to spend the part of the month resharing some of our favourite posts! Enjoy! ***

I think Blink 182 got it right when they said “nobody likes you when you’re 23.” And since I will 23 tomorrow, I figured this would be the best time to share 23 lessons I’ve learned in 23 years. Enjoy!

Manners will get you everywhere.

If your Mum doesn’t like your boyfriend or girlfriend, she’s probably right.


Travel as much as you can.

Spend more time doing the things you love.

If you don’t know something, ask. It’s a chance to learn something.

Never fight back with people who don’t like you – you’ll never win. And besides, they’re the loser.

You’ll never regret a workout or gym session, but you will regret not going.

Help others in any way you can – even if it’s something small and simple.

Even though it may be small, there’s always something good in every day.

Don’t be afraid to tell your story, you never know who’s out there that’s listening and may need to hear it.

When in doubt, dance it out!

Friendship isn’t measured by how long you’ve been friends, but rather the memories you share.



Don’t waste your time on things you don’t enjoy – your time is valuable.

A cup of tea (or coffee) will solve your problems. Well, at least temporarily.

Always take your makeup off at night.

You are your biggest critic – give yourself a break.

There are some things that aren’t worth getting upset over – remember, pick your battles.

Don’t change yourself to fit into a ‘standard’ – be true to who you are and be proud of it.

Take the time to stop and think about everything you’ve got in your life – be thankful for everything you have and what you’ve worked for. Stop and smell the roses sort of speak.


Photo albums and playlists are a great way to bring back old memories in a completely different way.

Your past is your past for a reason – don’t stress over the things you did, you can’t go back and change it. Move on.

Studying is always better when you use colourful pens and highlighters.

The book is always better than the movie. Always.


AlexAlex Newton is a nursing student and mental health advocate. She grew up in a small town and plans on moving to London, England one day and open up her own health practice. She has a cat named Maya who she adopted whilst going through some difficulties. She’s a daughter, sister, and warrior who enjoys a nice cuppa tea.

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