Turn the “Can’t” into “Can”

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So often the only thing that is stopping us from achieving that goal or dream is, ourselves!  Often when we are facing a challenge, we evaluate our abilities and size up the problem to see if we are a match for the task at hand.  The funny thing about humans is that we usually start with noticing what we are not equipped to do.  We go through our catalogue of weaknesses before looking at our strengths.  Often when we do this, we set ourselves up to back out.  We think I “Can’t” instead of I “Can”.

We give ourselves reasons for everything but consider that all the reasons are just made up.  Sometimes there are valid circumstances, but often we can come up with an excuse for anything.  So if you are going to make up a reason, make one that will empower you.  Instead of say “I can’t go to New York is September because I don’t have the money” instead you could say “I can go to New York in September because I have started a new job which will give me the money to afford it”.  Always remember that instead of looking at all the reasons you “Can’t” do something, have a mental picture of what you “Can” achieve, you may surprise yourself to know that the impossible is possible.

Ultimately the experience we learn from telling ourselves that we “Cant” do a particular thing into I “Can”, often can be very rewarding.  Below are some pointers to think about when you find yourself in this situation:

  • Believe in yourself – Don’t give yourself any other option.  If other people can do it, so can you!!
  • Write down your strengths as a person, things you feel confident at doing.
  • Look at how your strengths can be used to tackle the challenge.
  • Write down 10 “I Can” statements.  Even if they are small actions, there is always something that you “Can” do about the challenge.
  • Take those 10 actions and see where they take you.  Then go back and re-evaluate by repeating the “I Can” exercise


Amanda Ogden is from Sydney Australia, and has spent the past 13 years working within the welfare industry in both administration and case management assisting people with mental health issues, mild intellectual disabilities, acquired brain injuries, drug & alcohol, homelessness gain employment. She also loves travelling, creating jewellery, music, friends and family.

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