Everyone has their own definition of what love is; including myself. Some say it’s only a romantic feeling that you get when you find “the one.” Or some people think that it’s basically a fairy tale. “If you truly love each other then everything will be easy.” Some people think that it is a choice that you make each and everyday.
But let’s take a look at what God says love is. Love is something that you choose to do every day. If it wasn’t a choice then how could God command us to love one another? He tells us in John 15:12; to love another just as I have first loved you (NLT).
So how do you love? I’ll throw another verse out there for you. That most of you may already know. It is the most common verse spoken at weddings. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 describes what perfect love is. “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.” You can choose to be kind. You can choose to be patient. You can choose not to boast. You can choose all of these things.
Love is not always easy. It is hard work, it won’t always be easy. In any relationship there will be times when the people that you love the most will drive you up the wall. Those are the times when you choose to love, when you need to show the things in 1 Corinthians 13.
In the statements above we established that love is a command from God. In John 14:15 Jesus states, “If you love me, keep my commands.” Jesus commands us to love one another as He has first loved us. This conclusion brings us to love is ultimately a choice. In retrospect one cannot fall out of love. To lose the feeling of love is just not possible; love is not a feeling or an emotion. Love is a choice. Jesus commands us to love our enemies. Human nature will always dictate the opposite. Go against society and their selfish ways; love unconditionally.
Rachael is happily married with two children. She works for AIM Social Media Marketing and loves what she does! In her spare time she loves to colour to lose the stresses of the day and go for a walk with her family down the country roads.