In the past month, I’ve gotten several messages asking me for advice regarding how to handle the one-year anniversary of their child’s suicide attempt.
My heart breaks for the parents sending the emails – and for the children who went through the experience.
I’m not a parent… But I am the person on the other side of this equation – so I can say what I know I would have appreciated.
Here’s my response…
As someone who’s lived in your child’s shoes, I would have appreciated my parents talking to me about it. Maybe start the conversation and let them know you’re so thankful they are still here. Remind them how strong they are and tell them you’re proud of them for fighting and working towards recovery.
The first-year anniversary was really hard for me and I didn’t want to be around anyone. It’s been four years and now I “celebrate” by reflecting and sharing those reflections with my followers on social media.
I know some people throw a “birthday” party celebrating being alive and being strong. I think this is a beautiful thing. But it might not be for everyone.
The only thing I would not do is ignore it. It might not be an easy thing to talk about… I get that. But ignoring this big date that your child is approaching can make them feel alone.
The best thing you can do is talk to them about it. Let them know you’re there no matter how they want to approach the day.
Nichole is a Social Media Marketing Manager, business owner, daughter and friend. She has a Marketing Diploma and a Certificate of Christian Theology. She is an avid coffee lover who enjoys a good movie or book. She takes great joy in organizing, scheduling, and volunteering. Her passion for volunteerism extends specifically to those who are hurting, whether it is emotionally, physically, or mentally.
Nichole is certified to provide Mental Health First Aid, which means she can provide immediate support and guidance in a safe environment, comfortably have a conversation about mental health-related issues and offer professional and other supports. This does NOT make Nichole a psychologist, or a counselor. It simply gives her the tools to direct people to the help they need.